I spent the weekend entertained by the amazing Jim Jeffries (get on youtube and give him a look). One of his rants rang true with a previous post, over praise. I won’t recount Jim’s view but in essence we agree. There are two people in life there are winners and there are losers. An additional pearl of wisdom was that “if you don’t find out what you’re shit at, you’ll never know what you’re good at”. I have long espoused the view that we shouldn’t shy away from failure, it happens get over it. Geeks don’t win football matches and footballers don’t write software. If we keep telling our kids that it’s ‘the taking part’ that counts then our software will be written with two fingers by jocks. For those that like their sports then imagine IT geeks in formula league or whatever it’s called.
I have regular conversations with my sis and friends that revolve around the future of my love life. I think these conversations miss the fact that I am from a generation where there were such things as losers. I understand engineering, I have a good understanding of law and I make a pretty successful publican. I know my strengths, but I also know my weaknesses. Give me an engine and I can rebuild it, car or train won’t start? I can fix it. Lock me in a champagne warehouse with twenty frustrated supermodels and I will come out having solved their relationship issues and fixed the light.
Why is this an area where people think you have to keep trying to succeed. If I take my car to the garage and ten miles after collecting it it catches fire would I take it back there. Imagine that you plumb in the washing machine and it floods the house, plumber next time or give it another go? I can’t think of a subject where repeated, abject failure is seen as a reason to plough on. If you fail an exam you get one resit. If your partner builds an extension and it collapses you won’t let him try again. So why multiple marriages, give it a go and if you don’t come first try another subject.
I make a good ‘uncle’ a good ‘bro’ and a good confident. But when it comes to relationships I’m like a colour blind sparky. I’ve burnt a good few houses down now, its time to retire much safer for everyone.