I awoke at 6 am this morning to the most glorious sun streaming through my window. No traffic noise just the very soft lapping of a lazy ocean on a golden beach. One of the things that I love about living where I live is that nature is such an active partner. Last night I retired to a rock soundtrack of waves crashing against the sea wall, today barely a whisper. No matter where I am in the world silence feels more lonely without the ocean.
I always sleep with a window open so as to be able to listen to this ever varying soundtrack. This morning as I look out on the sparkling, near flat, ocean it is hard to reconcile with the broken concrete groynes and cliff erosion. The ocean is used as an analogy by many but here are the two things that I am always conscious of.
1- Patience conquers all. Today the ocean is still and calm, tomorrow it may not be but it is relentless. Every day it will tumble rocks together and grind them to sand, man will make barriers and the ocean will keep wearing them away. When your goals seem too far away or your having a low day its ok, be calm and still because tomorrow is another day.
2 – We are but visitors. As important, critical or terrible as events in our lives may seem to us we are only temporary. The ocean has seen life start, seen dinosaurs die out and man flourish. Whenever I face difficulty or things go wrong I stand on the beach and remind myself that no matter what the tide will come in and go out. It will do this long after I have forgotten my woes and long after I have been forgotten.
I am incredibly lucky to have this marvellous force of nature as a partner, as a lullaby and alarm call. I have shared my mornings view below but I am no photographer. If you would like to see amazing shots of the area you would be well advised to visit my friend Nigel’s site:
Oh and just in case this post sounded too philosophical for Essex I can add that the only passers by we’re the walks of shame. 6 am on a Sunday morning is the perfect time for that blinding sunlight to warm your hangover as you walk home in last nights clothes. Hey we were all young once.
Speaking to some friends over the weekend has reminded me of Jo’s insistence that I should always view my glass as half full and not half empty. Having studied law and generally being a pedant I like nothing more than to deconstruct an argument, its second nature to me as most of my friends will recognise with a groan. So when a friend asks ‘what is the point’ I have to answer that the actual point, the simple root that is the purpose of life is to live for the allotted duration, sure we would like to live in a better world, to provide for our families and be comfortable but they are our additions, our ‘value add’. Humans, like every other animal, come loaded with subliminal software that says ‘keep on going’ and that is the point, nothing more complex or philosophical than that. So when your feeling down, worried or just want to ‘give up’ remember that this is you not the world, you are judging your life by your rules and coming to the wrong conclusion.
The second debate that has been popular this weekend is ‘I won’t be rich’, firstly I should point out that this is from UK friends who already, no matter who they are, have a level of wealth beyond the reaches and dreams of a large proportion of the earths population. How does someone that feels that they are at the low end of the educational scale and have no opportunities think that they are clever enough to predict their entire life? People will always tell you that they won’t be rich because their lotto numbers won’t come up or they won’t marry a rich person this is such a false limitation why would you think like that? None of the people that we name when asked ‘who is wealthy’ are lotto winners, hard work, luck and timing are invariably what creates the wealth but its easier to focus on just the luck part because that is outside of our control.
I am by no means a philosopher, I don’t have any Buddhist beliefs but when I repeatedly come up against the same thoughts it does cause me some concern that if you don’t believe that the whole world is there for the taking then you are wasting your energy keeping yourself down.
Philosophy brief completed I can report in other news that Shorty remains a legend and will have a career with me as soon as I find another pub and they invent an artificial liver or somebody can assure me that putting him in a pub will not result in a manslaughter charge! I am astounded to find that Jules, who broke her wrist after visiting me in hospital, is now in a cast again for the same injury, I am starting to think that she is getting preferential treatment or perhaps its just that I am in the ‘too difficult pile’.
Congratulations go out to Helen for her mastery of Facebook she has added a location for the pub but a little more attention to detail is probably needed. I can see the pub from my window so when I pressed ‘navigate here’ I was more than a little surprised to find directions past the pub, along the seafront, down a side street and back along the high street arriving at the pie and mash shop, luckily I know a shortcut so it hasn’t kept me away.