An update from the world of dreams that I couldn’t resist. Helen, when you read this you don’t have to cover your ears. We are now trying to ascertain whether my Dream Wife dreams in fast forward. For those unfamiliar with DW or her previous role as DL, I advise either a catch up on past posts or call Jo she will fill you in with her own version.
Apparently the latest dream encounter involved my DW as part of a group learning surgery. The training course was on a boat travelling down the Amazon. The boat was me! At some point DW cut off my hand in error (well she says it was an error), she reconnected it and was very worried I would hate her. Apparently she was very attentive and caring when I awoke and hoped that I wouldn’t notice, presumably when I stopped being a boat? In her defence if you look at the scars I may well not have noticed!
My first stab at this was that this is simply life on fast forward. We started with amazing passion, progressed to marriage and now we are at the ‘hacking lumps off’ stage. Hey come on, who hasn’t had at least one of those relationships?
DW seems to think that this symbolises her fear that she would do something to ruin a relationship. Unfortunately for her she told me when I was on the train, with plenty of time to think. My more considered interpretation was :
Me as a boat – symbolises reliance, single source of support, faith and trust invested in one person
Learning surgery – symbolises change and needing to do new things that you haven’t done and may not like or be any good at. The fact that this was on the ‘gav boat’ shows the connection between the relationship and the change
Cutting my hand off – apart from the obvious concern that the injuries mean I won’t be able to support. I think I agree that the mistake symbolises the self doubt that we all have that we will mess up and ruin something
So in summary, DW is subconsciously on the edge of leaping into a new life with me. She knows how comfortable she feels with me and is now systematically evaluating all of her concerns. So we had a bedroom try out and passed with flying colours. We have tackled pubs and meeting family with great success. Now we are looking at the deeper philosophical issues of relationships.
One of the many things that fascinates me is that on every occasion we have done well. Every dream concludes that we were the right choice and clearly a good decision.What amazes me is that DW woke up genuinely worried that she had hurt me and ‘lost’ me.
I have discussed this with DW and I think that she is taking ‘try before you buy’ to a whole new level. I am concerned though that the ‘weeping widow’ look won’t suit her and will suit me even less. Whilst her intepretation of death in a dream, that it means a new beginning, is reassuring this did come from the woman trying to hide the dodgy stitch work on my severed hand. If DW dreams of death will I awake to silence? or conversly if I awake to silence will she dream of death? My plan is to cheat dream death (those words look really wrong next to each other) I am going to provide a more appropriate dream scenario for the next adventure. Lets see how succsesful that will be.
For those that like to look at spiritual connections consider this, my DW dreamt of me on the amazon last night. I awoke at 3 am and laid there curled under the duvet listening to the wonderfully soft lapping of the ocean on the beach, totally transfixed. What came first? Did my audio input trigger the dream? Or did the dream draw my attention to the noise?
For those of you that are not spiritual, consider how quick that is from marriage to sitting there thinking ‘he is as big as a boat’.
For those that just wonder how these conversations come about and why we discuss these subjects, don’t try and understand its just how we roll. After all explaining stuff is not half as much fun as spending your nights in a beautiful young ladies dreams is it?