Whilst I would never claim to be philosophical this is as close as I get. As a long time single middle age man I was considering why this situation seems impossible to change. I realised some time ago that the rituals of courtship are for the young. There is no dignity in dating and the older that we get the more ridiculous it becomes (thanks Steve for your recent demonstration).
If you think about it we are predisposed to look at youngsters courting with the same eyes that we look at older married couples. It’s nice to see a young couple ‘starting out’ and equally delightful to see a long-term married couple. Conversely we are not as inspired by seeing young couples taking life too seriously and marrying young or older people dating.
It seems that for most of us there are distinct phases in our lives. Perhaps there should be a warning at a certain age “caution this is your last chance”. Like a game of cards there is no longer an option to twist its stick all the way now. There is, of course, an issue with this in that we rarely hit the same stage at the same time. Whilst one partner has used their last twist the other is not quite ready to stick. The elderly couple that make you smile with the longevity of their relationship simply synchronised these stages, they were both at stick when they came together.
Like most things this is only a general rule it does not apply to everyone. There are some occasions when people extend their hand and twist for longer. I theorise that there are two reasons for this; firstly these people may simply have not used all of their twists earlier in life. Perhaps we all start with a fixed number and it depends how long you make them last? So the person that spends much of their younger life single simply extends their search period. Alternatively the number of twists we get is not a simple number or, more accurately, it does not decrease in singular units. So happy relationships may take the number down by less than one and leave more opportunity for future success. Disastrous relationships meanwhile cost multiple twists as protection against future disasters. So those still embarking on relationships at more mature ages are a good prospect having experienced several happy relationships. Those of us that are not have good reason.
Note to Jo, glass is half full I was just saying.